• Wisdom Wednesday

    Confess For Success

    The Bite


    Proverbs 28:13

    People who conceal their sins will not prosper,

       but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy.


    The Digest


    So, as we begin this new year, we normally make resolutions or goals. We often jot down some sort of goal in which we want to be successful. When we make this year goals, we don’t realize how our sin can affects our prosperity.


    The bite states that those who conceal (try to hide) their sin will not prosper. Ok, for my ladies who love makeup, I don’t wear makeup, but I have seen enough Youtube videos to know that you need concealer (to hide all the spots, redness, and blemishes you don’t want anyone to see). But, after the day is done you wash the concealer from your face and it reveals those spots again. When you keep trying to hide your sin, it just reveals itself over again and again.


    Sister, you can’t cover up your sin and think God does not see.


    Psalm 32:3 When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long.


      • We can’t refuse to confess our mess in this new year.
      • God wants us to confess and turn from our sin, so that we may succeed.


    1 John 1:9 But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.


    He will be faithful to forgive your flaws.


    Psalms 32:5 Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself “I will confess my rebellion to the Lord.” And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.


    God wants to take whatever you are hiding today away! He is your hiding place. He will protect and surround you in this new year.


    The Chew


    Confess for Success

  • Wisdom Wednesday

    Wise Women: Abigail

    The Bite

    Wise Women in the Bible: Abigail 1 Samuel 25


    • She was married to Nabal, a mean drunk. Abigail took her vows seriously. She didn’t leave her husband. (verse 3)
    • She was sensible and beautiful. (verse 3) 

    Nabal had made trouble with David because he didn’t want to share. (verse 10/11) He was selfish. His selfishness angered David. Therefore, David wanted to kill Nabal and his people.

    • She was punctual– she wasted no time. (verse 18)
    • She was prepared– she packed food and took it to David herself, pleading for her crazy man’s life.
    • She humbles herself and accepted the blame.
    • She saved David from killing people and he was grateful to her because he didn’t take matters in his own hands. Also, saved Nabal’s life. 
    • She was rewarded – After she did all this, she returns home to a drunk husband. She didn’t tell him what she had done for him until he was sober. (verse 37) He has a stroke after he hears what happen and the Lord struck him dead 10 days later. I believe the Lord rewarded her for her loyalty and removed Nabal from the picture.

    The Digest

    Abigail looked beyond her situation. She looked at God. Look at God in your situation. Ask Him how can I serve you right where I am?

    Sister, Let’s be like Abigail: Be a sensible woman. Committed to your husbands no matter the circumstance. Take your vows seriously. Humble yourself before God. Be prepared at all times to fight the enemy for your family. Pray and plead for your man to be who God calls him to be.

    The Chew

    The Lord will reward your obedience and loyalty to Him, no matter what your situation you are in.

  • Wisdom Wednesday

    Learn to Love and Give Discipline

    The Bite

    Proverbs 12:1 NLT

    To learn, you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate correction.

    Learn- to gain or acquire knowledge or skill by study, experience, or being taught. 

    At some point in your life, you have been taught something that you need to know.

    God teaches us all we need to know. He also disciples (corrects) those He loves.

    The bite states it is stupid to hate His correction!  It is His gentle, loving correction that convicts and changes us in the first place.


    I often struggle with being consistent with the discipline methods with my children, ages 12, 8, 6, and 2. As I studied this bite, I was convicted on the urgency of disciplining my children.

    In this bite, the word Must- is defined as should, got, need to, something that should not be overlooked.

    Although, I hate to spank. There are certain offenses that require spanking, in my opinion. But, I let them slide when mommy gets tired. Studying this scripture has made me realize that there is too much at stake. I have to teach my children, in order for the learn to love disciple.

    The Digest

    Ladies, It is tough when our Father corrects us, but He does it because of His love.

      • Have you learned to love the Lord’s discipline?
      • Are you teaching your children to love discipline?
      • How consistent are your methods?

    Share your helpful creative discipline tips with us in the comment section below.

    The Chew

    Learn to love and give discipline

  • Wisdom Wednesday

    The Wisdom To End Gossip


    The Bite

    Proverbs 26:20 When you run out of wood, the fire goes out; when the gossip ends, the quarrel dies down.

    The Digest

    In this bite, we see a picture. There is wood and fire. We all have seen someone start a fire in our life. You must have wood to start the fire and continue to add wood to keep it going. As soon, as the wood is stopped from being added to the fire, it goes out.

    We as women, love to talk. God made us that way. We thrive off of connection. What happens when that connection becomes disconnection because of our mouth?

    When we gossip, it causes disconnection and confusion.

    The second portion of this bite states: when the gossip ends, the quarrel dies down.file_000

    Just like the fire and the wood, when you stop adding your words to the gossip mill, the quarreling(arguing)dies down.

    Another word for gossip in this verse is whisperer. Are you are whisperer? What things are you sharing about others that you shouldn’t?

    Gossip is not a prayer request either, unless you and that other person is coming together to intercede on behalf of that person.

    Let us remember, that God is listening to every one of those whispers. The sooner we stop the gossip, the faster the gossip mill stops. No one can say you said anything if the gossips ends with you.

    Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

    What fires of your mouth, have you kept adding wood? Where in your life do you need to stop adding words to the gossip mill?

    James 3:6 MSG

    It only takes a spark, remember, to set off a forest fire. A careless or wrongly placed word out of your mouth can do that. By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation, send the whole world up in smoke and go up in smoke with it, smoke right from the pit of hell.

    The Chew

    Remove Your Whisper Wood to Stop the Gossip Fire!

  • Wisdom Wednesday

    Sweeten Up Your Words to Your Sweetie

    The Bite

    Proverbs 21: 9, 19

    V.9     It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.
    V.19 It’s better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.

    This verse also mentioned in Proverbs 24:25


    The Digest

    So I wonder how many our men feel like all they have left to do is hide (shut down), because of our complaining and argumentative behaviors. Has your man resorted to the quiet desolated place because of your own mouth?

    We are either building up our man and our home or tearing it down with our own hands. It is often said, the women set the tone of the home. What tone are you setting in your home?

    This verse simply shows us it is better for our man to live open to the elements outside than to dealing with the nagging.

    I am still a work in progress. 🙂 but at the beginning of my marriage,  I’m sure my husband would have rather went out in the cooling rain, and warmth of sun outside,  inside of dealing with storm Alnesha.

    So, ladies, Are you a complaining wife? Are you jumping down his throat for any and everything he does or doesn’t do?

    So challenge for us, this week: Try to not complain. When you get ready to, turn it into thanksgiving instead. For example “I hate it when you leave those wet towels on the floor”. Instead “I love how you work so hard for our family, babe”.

    Proverbs 16:24
    Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

    The Chew

    Sweeten up words to your Sweetie

  • Wisdom Wednesday

    Check Your Building Plan

    The Bite:


    Proverbs 14:1

    A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.

    Proverbs 2:6-8


    All wisdom comes from the Lord, and so do common sense and understanding.

    This woman gets everything she needs from the Lord.

    Build-simply means to build or rebuild; to put something together; to establish.

    Her house refers both to her body(temple) and her household.

    Now, we have this foolish woman:

    Websters 1828 defines Foolish- void of understanding or sound judgment; unwise, silly and trifling.

    Tears down with own hands- destroy

    I am in the rebuilding process.  I am recovering foolish women finally seeking wisdom from the Lord. Once I realized the need for wisdom, I began to seek it. Sister, he provides wisdom if we ask. 

    If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. James 1:5


    Sister, which woman are you? Are you checking the blueprint to see how to build your household? Are you taking care of your body? Building your temple(spiritually)? Are you allowing the Architect to make the changes he needs to build strong wise woman?

    All builders need a blueprint and an architect. Our blueprint is the Bible. His instructions for our life. We have the best Architect available to mankind: JESUS.

    The Chew:  Check your Building Plan.